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Although social media has become a wonderful platform to connect with loved ones, celebrities, journalists and one another, it also has it consequences related to self-esteem. During counseling, I often hear about experiences with cyber-bullying, or individuals feeling negatively about themselves as a result of comparing what they see others posting and experiencing on social media to their own lives. Regardless of the many benefits of social media, especially from a professi

Both maintaining old and forming new friendships as an adult can be difficult. As we grow older, move away, get new jobs, maybe get married and create families, we may find it more and more difficult to maintain friendships we made when we were in middle school, high school, college, first jobs, etc. Below I will share with you some ways to maintain relationships with our oldest loved ones, as well as some tips on how to form new friendships as we manuever adulthood. Sustaini

Therapy can be a confusing and daunting concept if you have never attended before. I often get calls from potential clients expressing their fear of making that initial phone call and questions regarding how the process works. As a therapist, I try to make the process as painless as possible for my clients, assuring them that this is THEIR process. I am here to help you, and do my best to help you as an individual, with the issues you are coming in with. I do not just see cli

Anxiety is both a physical and cognitive issue. Anxiety can plague our body and our thoughts -- leading to the tightening of our chests, to us not being able to catch our breath, to cycling negative thoughts. So here I present to you a specific practice to utilize when you experience anxiety, both in your body and in your mind. All I ask is that you commit AT LEAST 15 minutes a day to this practice in order to achieve the best results. These tips can be used at the onset of a

People often get stuck in negative thought, reaction or behavioral patterns. What we often don't realize is that those patterns may no longer serve us, and can actually stand in the way of us experiencing serenity. So, here are some of my tips (easier said than done, of course) to help you be happier. Let's change your patterns, and give up what is no longer serving you! 15 Things to Give Up If You Want to be Happy: 1. Give up your need to always be right. Would you rather be

It is not uncommon to find ourselves in a toxic or unhealthy relationship - whether it be romantic, familial or friendly. Once we become involved or enmeshed in toxicity, we may find it difficult to get ourselves out. I want to emphasize the importance of removing yourself from an unhealthy relationship or environment. It is okay to protect yourself, and detach with love. Here are some ways in which to do so: Personally Focus only on what you can control Rid of expectations D

Many of us get stuck in bad habits. Many of us feel like we go through each mundane, average day just like any other. It is important to be mindful of each day, to the best of our ability, so that we can make the best out of living. Here are 10 simple ways for you to make your days less average. Cheers to self-improvement! Each day: 1. Engage in self-reflection. Analyze what allows you to do well, or badly 2. Read a minimum of one chapter of one book 3. Reserve at least thirt

Sometimes we don't know why we are feeling the way that we do. Understanding why we are experiencing certain emotions can provide insight and guide us to our next steps. Although these meanings are not definitive (and every person and situation is different) here is a general guideline to help you put meaning to your emotions. Anxiety - shows you that you need to become present. Get out of your past and stop living in the fear of the future. Disappointment - shows you that yo

Each person has a different primary love language. Often, we do not know what ours is, or even what our partner's is. Therefore, we unknowingly act in contrast with our partner's love language, and are unsuccessful in showing him/her love in the way that he/she wants to receive it. This can thus lead to problems in a relationship, sometimes leading to feelings of confusion, resentment, or feeling unloved and unappreciated. When I have clients coming in for couples counseling

It is very easy to get stuck in a pattern of negative thinking. Negative and distorted thought patterns can be unhelpful and detrimental to us. The next time you get stuck in a negative thought pattern that causes distress, ask yourself the following questions: 1. Am I falling into a trap of negative thinking? (i.e., catastrophizing, projection, mind-reading, all-or-nothing thinking, etc.) 2. What is the evidence that supports this thought? 3. What is the evidence that DISPUT