It is not uncommon to find ourselves in a toxic or unhealthy relationship - whether it be romantic, familial or friendly. Once we become involved or enmeshed in toxicity, we may find it difficult to get ourselves out. I want to emphasize the importance of removing yourself from an unhealthy relationship or environment....

Many of us get stuck in bad habits. Many of us feel like we go through each mundane, average day just like any other. It is important to be mindful of each day, to the best of our ability, so that we can make the best out of living. Here are 10 simple ways for you to make your days less average. Cheers to self-improvem...

Sometimes we don't know why we are feeling the way that we do. Understanding why we are experiencing certain emotions can provide insight and guide us to our next steps. Although these meanings are not definitive (and every person and situation is different) here is a general guideline to help you put meaning to your e...

Each person has a different primary love language. Often, we do not know what ours is, or even what our partner's is. Therefore, we unknowingly act in contrast with our partner's love language, and are unsuccessful in showing him/her love in the way that he/she wants to receive it. This can thus lead to problems in a r...

It is very easy to get stuck in a pattern of negative thinking. Negative and distorted thought patterns can be unhelpful and detrimental to us. The next time you get stuck in a negative thought pattern that causes distress, ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I falling into a trap of negative thinking? (i.e., ca...

Making decisions can be difficult, especially when we fear making the wrong one. Fear can often get in the way of making a decision, or even trusting ourselves to do so. Below I have laid out some steps that I encourage you to take when faced with a tough decision. Having a strategy can drastically increase the number...

Here are some do's and don'ts with anger management:


  • express how you feel clearly and concisely

  • recognize your early signs of anger to keep it from escalating

  • take a time-out for at least 20 minutes to calm down

  • find healthy outlets (vigorous exercise, free writing) to express your anger safely

  • ...

Just because you and your partner (or family member, friend, etc.) may have differences in opinions, views or communication style, doesn't mean your interactions have to turn into conflict. Conflict is optional. It occurs when one or both partners attempt to coerce the other into adopting their point of view. Fear unde...

I recently wrote a blog post on how to be kinder to yourself. Now, taking what you learned from that post and combining it with the tips I give you in this post, you will have a good idea of how to build yourself up rather than tear yourself down. The time has come for you to finally work on building your self-esteem....

Work can be stressful, no matter what type of job you have. Whether it's the people we work with that get on our nerves, or the lack of compensation, or the workplace conditions -- managing stress at work is possible! Take some time to track your stressors. Pay attention to what types of situations, what times of the d...

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