Each person has a different primary love language. Often, we do not know what ours is, or even what our partner's is. Therefore, we unknowingly act in contrast with our partner's love language, and are unsuccessful in showing him/her love in the way that he/she wants to receive it. This can thus lead to problems in a relationship, sometimes leading to feelings of confusion, resentment, or feeling unloved and unappreciated. When I have clients coming in for couples counseling or to work on relationship issues, I often ask them to take the love language assessment. I have found it is important to understand what both yours and your partner's is. You may have some love languages close in rank, but it is still helpful to know what they are. The five love languages are: acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, and receiving gifts. Let's take a look at them below!
Acts of Service
Words of Affirmation
Click here to take your love language assessment! Have your partner take it too. You may purchase Gary Chapman's book 5 Love Languages on my book list page. I highly recommend reading it to to help improve your partnership and gain more understanding of yourself and your loved one.