Positive Self-Talk for Beginners

By McKensie Shiner

How does the voice inside your head sound to you? Harsh? Judgemental? You may benefit from positive self-talk if you often notice you sooner resort to pessimism than optimism.

What is positive self talk?

Positive self-talk is a way of using your inner monologue to increase your positivity. Essentially, it’s like having a voice constantly in your head to help you look on the bright side of life. The most important part is — that voice is you.

We all have the power to turn our negativity into something much greater for our mental health by using positive self-talk each and every day. The truth is, at the end of the day, we are usually the highest critics of ourselves.

If we can overcome the negativity we instill in our own heads every day, there’s no way we can’t bounce back after having a rough day once we learn how to speak kinder to ourselves and keep a positive outlook on things.

So, how do you do it?

The first step is to find positivity in your life. A great start would be to make a list of everything you’re thankful for in your life and use those as a basis for your daily positive self-talk.

It doesn’t have to be as grand as your significant other being your soulmate— it can be the simplicity of seeing flowers on your drive home or hearing your favorite song in a coffee shop.

A close second to finding positivity is reminding yourself not to compare your life to anyone else’s. When you are constantly emphasizing your lack of what someone else has, you’re only making your self image go down.

Instead, be happy for others and credit yourself for what you do achieve. The more we’re able to appreciate our lives, the easier it will be to get into the habit of positive self-talk every day.

Not sure where to get started? There are some basic reassuring thoughts you can tell yourself to get into the habit of making a positive twist on everything you do.

Here are some good beginner phrases:

  • I can do this

  • I am enough

  • I have the power to change my own mind

  • Tomorrow is a new chance to try again

  • I can grow as a person from my mistakes

  • I can do anything I set my mind to

Positive self-talk looks different in everyone. While some tactics may work for you, they may not work for others.

At the end of the day, be sure to remain patient with yourself and to accept that you’re making the most of every day.